When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection - or compassionate action.” ― Daniel Goleman, “The belief that unhappiness is selfless and happiness is selfish is misguided. It takes energy, generosity, and discipline to be unfailingly lighthearted, yet everyone takes the happy person for granted.
No one is careful of his feelings or tries to keep his spirits high.
It sounds like you’re pretty clear that you don’t want to stay with him.
What is the psychology that underlines this fear and what can you do about this?He seemed to handle that well, and would then turn around his behavior and help me out.Dear Abby, If he’s selfish, why would you stay with him?A man can have a fun personality, he can be smart and successful, good looking, and great in bed.But if he’s selfish, you will not have a relationship with a true partner. And you’ll always be on the short end of the stick, which is not a fun place to be.The narcissistic orientation is one in which one experiences as real only that which exists within oneself, while the phenomena in the outside world have no reality in themselves, but are experienced only from the viewpoint of their being useful or dangerous to one.